I'm thinking about friendship, how it happens, or doesn't, how it lasts or fades. Thinking about how much of a role I play in that, how much it depends on the pair, or society, a shared experience, or unexplained connection.What powers of the universe bring us together? Or keep us apart?
How is it that I can find other people in this life that I have so much in common with? Even getting to a very deep level of the soul. How is it that, as I dare go further, they don't back slowly away?
Of course that happens too. Maybe it's just trail and error. A game of "Who Wants to be a Millionare?" How many rounds do we go? How much do you risk? When do we decide to stop where we are, keep the winnings and not take the risk to either win big or loose it all?
The grand design of friendship. unforced. flexible.
ReplyDeleteit's a good thing, the relationship between friends.
There's no explaining it. It just happens - or doesn't. Isn't it a joy to find someone and have it just click?
ReplyDeleteIt's the keeping of friendships that is sometimes so hard...
ReplyDeleteI could say so much but I am too tired to get deep :) But a good post Ms Pilgram :)
ReplyDeleteI don't know how it happens. I'm just glad it does :)
ReplyDeleteTell me when you figure out the answers.
ReplyDeleteYea, I'm not sure I agree with everything here. I have long lasting friendships with people I didn't expect to form a relationship, so I'm not totally sure that it always depends on that first spark. Maybe it's enough that one of the two gets the spark. And is willing to poke and prod the other along.
ReplyDeleteAnd the depth... I can't get that here. Is it just a cultural divide? Or am I personally holding back more than I normally would?
I think a lot of it depends on us being willing to risk it. Being comfortable enough with who we are that we're able to throw it out on the chopping block.
I am gearing up to get back in the game...